Honestly, I feel a bit like a fake lately. Here I am sharing tips and skills, and I’m barely holding it together. At least, from my view I’m barely holding it together. A friend recently said, “You’re holding yourself to some crazy standards thinking that you aren’t enough.” Well, perhaps. I hold myself to the… Read More Freeform Friday: Taking my own advice
I’ve posted before about recognizing your limits, saying no, and taking time for yourself. But those things can be extra difficult if you don’t know how to set and hold your boundaries. Not that boundaries are easy to master, or even hold to 100% of the time. They’re effective and necessary, though.
So often when something troubles us, we shove it aside and keep pushing forward. A broken heart, dissatisfaction with a job, stress from any source, anger, fear, all those emotions just get pushed into a corner together. We tell ourselves we’ll deal with it later and focus on things we feel have to be done.… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Recognize what hurts
Executive dysfunction can originate from a variety of sources. Depression, anxiety, ADD/ADHD, illness, and even being overtired. It’s crippling when it hits, even if it passes in a day. For those who live with it, it can become a level of hell especially when combined with a society that calls it “laziness.” The first skill… Read More Top-Skills Thursday: Executive Dyusfunction
We are human. We have emotions. Most of us in the US don’t allow enough time to process those emotions in a healthy way because we’re taught to bottle things up and never let it out. When something truly world-shifting happens, especially when it’s something painful, we suddenly find ourselves with a broken bottle and… Read More Soothing Sunday: Set a Timer
No matter how open-minded and understanding we want to be, there are always times when we see the world in black and white. Failure, being in need, not producing things, not working on yourself every single day… all are “bad.” Success, having more than enough of what you need, having a hustle… all are “good.”… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Add some grey
Through this series we’ve touched on the basics of how CBT works and what to expect if you seek help from a therapist who uses it. The question I always ask when I start working with a therapist is, “How will I know when it’s helping?” With CBT the answer is pretty obvious. You’ll know… Read More Therapy Tuesday: CBT – Seeing Improvements
I’ve been dropping ideas about self-care every weekend, but what about a plan? Do you have a list of “go to” self-care practices? If not, what should you do to build one?
Sometimes, when I look around at my life and my current state of mind I get frustrated, but also encouraged. That sense of encouragement is really important right now, as I fight the depression. It’s all about knowing that while I feel like a ship left behind on a dried up lake… I know that… Read More Freeform Friday: Looking at reality
Now that you’ve worked with your therapist to identify the thoughts you find yourself struggling with, you’ll move forward to identifying the emotions you feel with those thoughts. Using the example I started last week, a fear of public speaking, we’ll look at how this step works.