Honestly, I feel a bit like a fake lately. Here I am sharing tips and skills, and I’m barely holding it together. At least, from my view I’m barely holding it together. A friend recently said, “You’re holding yourself to some crazy standards thinking that you aren’t enough.” Well, perhaps. I hold myself to the… Read More Freeform Friday: Taking my own advice
Well, that excitement about getting a new job and finally getting onto the career track I’ve spent the last four years working for … was given a bath in nuclear waste. I owe so much to my boss right now. It turns out the offer was a scam. He didn’t know, but he just kept… Read More Freeform Friday: Where to begin…
Breathing is one of those self-soothing practices that gets talked to death. However, I don’t often see specifics about how to use it properly. We can say, “Take deep breaths” all day, but what if it isn’t helping? The part that gets overlooked is what to do while breathing. There are ways to count breaths,… Read More Soothing Sunday: Relaxing Breath
So often when something troubles us, we shove it aside and keep pushing forward. A broken heart, dissatisfaction with a job, stress from any source, anger, fear, all those emotions just get pushed into a corner together. We tell ourselves we’ll deal with it later and focus on things we feel have to be done.… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Recognize what hurts
Face it, the world is a crazy place. It seems to have become moreso in the past few years, no matter who you ask or what they think is craziest about it. Self-soothing is a fantastic way to keep your emotional state somewhere that allows you to function through it all. It can go terribly… Read More Soothing Sunday: When self-soothing goes wrong
Executive dysfunction can originate from a variety of sources. Depression, anxiety, ADD/ADHD, illness, and even being overtired. It’s crippling when it hits, even if it passes in a day. For those who live with it, it can become a level of hell especially when combined with a society that calls it “laziness.” The first skill… Read More Top-Skills Thursday: Executive Dyusfunction
We are human. We have emotions. Most of us in the US don’t allow enough time to process those emotions in a healthy way because we’re taught to bottle things up and never let it out. When something truly world-shifting happens, especially when it’s something painful, we suddenly find ourselves with a broken bottle and… Read More Soothing Sunday: Set a Timer
Among the many things that influence our moods, weather is something we’re not prone to think of quickly. Yet, it’s something outside of our control and it can have an enormous impact on our state of mind!
No matter how open-minded and understanding we want to be, there are always times when we see the world in black and white. Failure, being in need, not producing things, not working on yourself every single day… all are “bad.” Success, having more than enough of what you need, having a hustle… all are “good.”… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Add some grey
Through this series we’ve touched on the basics of how CBT works and what to expect if you seek help from a therapist who uses it. The question I always ask when I start working with a therapist is, “How will I know when it’s helping?” With CBT the answer is pretty obvious. You’ll know… Read More Therapy Tuesday: CBT – Seeing Improvements
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