No matter how open-minded and understanding we want to be, there are always times when we see the world in black and white. Failure, being in need, not producing things, not working on yourself every single day… all are “bad.” Success, having more than enough of what you need, having a hustle… all are “good.”… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Add some grey
How many times have you done your best, poured your heart and soul into something, and received no recognition? No one recognized how hard it was. No one saw how you struggled to learn things so you could do well. No one realized you did this on top of all your other work. No one… Read More Motivational Monday: Do Your Best Anyway
Weekends, the time when we’re not working the job that pays the bills. It’s supposed to be “time to rest” but so often, it isn’t. We get invited to family functions, out with friends, and we don’t feel right turning down those invitations even if we sometimes feel like we don’t have the internal resources… Read More Self-Care Saturday: Turn down the Invite
Sometimes, when I look around at my life and my current state of mind I get frustrated, but also encouraged. That sense of encouragement is really important right now, as I fight the depression. It’s all about knowing that while I feel like a ship left behind on a dried up lake… I know that… Read More Freeform Friday: Looking at reality
I’m going to start today with a visual example to explain why we should reframe things sometimes. The following image is one I took, and I’m going to frame it in two different ways. In this first image, there’s not a lot to see. Some scruffy grass, maybe a mildly interesting pattern, but overall, not… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Reframe
I’ve had a frustrating realization, and I decided to share it with everyone here. My reason for it isn’t to garner sympathy, but to show how I use the skills I write about. This post may be long, and I’ll put a TRIGGER WARNING here that I’m going to be discussing the ways depression and… Read More Freeform Friday: My battle with depression
It’s such an obvious thing, isn’t it? If you’re having trouble with anxiety or depression, find a therapist. Don’t ask me why, even for those of us who have successfully used therapists in the past, it’s not the first thing we think of. What I’ve learned is that it’s sometimes quite a bit harder than… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Find a therapist
A friend of mine said something mildly self-deprecating one day. I said, “Don’t talk that way about my friend!” She stopped, looked at me in surprise, and then laughed. She’d heard that line before. The ways we talk to ourselves can be small expressions of irritation, and sometimes they can be downright abusive. We wouldn’t… Read More Soothing Sunday: Give Yourself Compassion
Kambry Ellis 