Honestly, I feel a bit like a fake lately. Here I am sharing tips and skills, and I’m barely holding it together. At least, from my view I’m barely holding it together. A friend recently said, “You’re holding yourself to some crazy standards thinking that you aren’t enough.” Well, perhaps. I hold myself to the… Read More Freeform Friday: Taking my own advice
So often when something troubles us, we shove it aside and keep pushing forward. A broken heart, dissatisfaction with a job, stress from any source, anger, fear, all those emotions just get pushed into a corner together. We tell ourselves we’ll deal with it later and focus on things we feel have to be done.… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Recognize what hurts
Executive dysfunction can originate from a variety of sources. Depression, anxiety, ADD/ADHD, illness, and even being overtired. It’s crippling when it hits, even if it passes in a day. For those who live with it, it can become a level of hell especially when combined with a society that calls it “laziness.” The first skill… Read More Top-Skills Thursday: Executive Dyusfunction
No matter how open-minded and understanding we want to be, there are always times when we see the world in black and white. Failure, being in need, not producing things, not working on yourself every single day… all are “bad.” Success, having more than enough of what you need, having a hustle… all are “good.”… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Add some grey
How many times have you done your best, poured your heart and soul into something, and received no recognition? No one recognized how hard it was. No one saw how you struggled to learn things so you could do well. No one realized you did this on top of all your other work. No one… Read More Motivational Monday: Do Your Best Anyway
Weekends, the time when we’re not working the job that pays the bills. It’s supposed to be “time to rest” but so often, it isn’t. We get invited to family functions, out with friends, and we don’t feel right turning down those invitations even if we sometimes feel like we don’t have the internal resources… Read More Self-Care Saturday: Turn down the Invite
Sometimes, when I look around at my life and my current state of mind I get frustrated, but also encouraged. That sense of encouragement is really important right now, as I fight the depression. It’s all about knowing that while I feel like a ship left behind on a dried up lake… I know that… Read More Freeform Friday: Looking at reality
I’m going to start today with a visual example to explain why we should reframe things sometimes. The following image is one I took, and I’m going to frame it in two different ways. In this first image, there’s not a lot to see. Some scruffy grass, maybe a mildly interesting pattern, but overall, not… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Reframe
I’ve had a frustrating realization, and I decided to share it with everyone here. My reason for it isn’t to garner sympathy, but to show how I use the skills I write about. This post may be long, and I’ll put a TRIGGER WARNING here that I’m going to be discussing the ways depression and… Read More Freeform Friday: My battle with depression
It’s such an obvious thing, isn’t it? If you’re having trouble with anxiety or depression, find a therapist. Don’t ask me why, even for those of us who have successfully used therapists in the past, it’s not the first thing we think of. What I’ve learned is that it’s sometimes quite a bit harder than… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Find a therapist
Kambry Ellis 