Now that you’ve worked with your therapist to identify the thoughts you find yourself struggling with, you’ll move forward to identifying the emotions you feel with those thoughts. Using the example I started last week, a fear of public speaking, we’ll look at how this step works.
I’m going to start today with a visual example to explain why we should reframe things sometimes. The following image is one I took, and I’m going to frame it in two different ways. In this first image, there’s not a lot to see. Some scruffy grass, maybe a mildly interesting pattern, but overall, not… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Reframe
I’ve had a frustrating realization, and I decided to share it with everyone here. My reason for it isn’t to garner sympathy, but to show how I use the skills I write about. This post may be long, and I’ll put a TRIGGER WARNING here that I’m going to be discussing the ways depression and… Read More Freeform Friday: My battle with depression
It’s such an obvious thing, isn’t it? If you’re having trouble with anxiety or depression, find a therapist. Don’t ask me why, even for those of us who have successfully used therapists in the past, it’s not the first thing we think of. What I’ve learned is that it’s sometimes quite a bit harder than… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Find a therapist
It can be hard to get motivated, but more than that, it can be a herculean task to stay motivated.
The answer to how to stay motivated isn’t complicated, but it can be slippery to nail down. The answer is, know what moves you.… Read More Motivational Monday: Know what moves you
I still like the way emotional regulation was described to me when I was working with my DBT group. The therapist leading the group said something along the lines of this: Most of us have cooked something in our lives. Maybe a simple meal, maybe something fancy. Imagine if you had to cook without any… Read More Therapy Tuesday: DBT – Part 4D – Emotional Regulation
Rather than a quote, I’m going to look at what drives us, what motivates humans in general. Why do we succeed in some areas and flounder in others? The first part of the answer lies in understanding that there is motivation that is generated within yourself, intrinsic motivation; and there’s external motivation, such as pay,… Read More Motivational Monday: Finding Motivation
Distress tolerance is the third module in DBT therapy. This section is exactly what it sounds like; how to handle those overwhelming moments.
A brief overview of real mindfulness skills.… Read More Therapy Tuesday: DBT – Part 4A – Mindfulness Skills