Honestly, I feel a bit like a fake lately. Here I am sharing tips and skills, and I’m barely holding it together. At least, from my view I’m barely holding it together. A friend recently said, “You’re holding yourself to some crazy standards thinking that you aren’t enough.” Well, perhaps. I hold myself to the… Read More Freeform Friday: Taking my own advice
Have you ever avoided doing something because it scared you? I’m not talking, “That thing made me feel so nervous!” I mean, “my heart was racing, I couldn’t put words together, and my entire body was shaking!” I’m going to bet you have, because every single person on the planet has had that happen at… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Be Brave In Small Ways
Sometimes, when I look around at my life and my current state of mind I get frustrated, but also encouraged. That sense of encouragement is really important right now, as I fight the depression. It’s all about knowing that while I feel like a ship left behind on a dried up lake… I know that… Read More Freeform Friday: Looking at reality
Now that you’ve worked with your therapist to identify the thoughts you find yourself struggling with, you’ll move forward to identifying the emotions you feel with those thoughts. Using the example I started last week, a fear of public speaking, we’ll look at how this step works.
I got a couple messages last week asking if I was okay after the post about my current mental state. Short version: Yes. I’m okay. Long version: I’m not okay, but I will be. I’m too stubborn to just give up. It’s helpful at times like this when what I’d really like is to crawl… Read More Freeform Friday: Yep, still here.
In a CBT session the focus is on a target area. How a patient thinks, feels, and reacts to a situation or thought is causing problems in their life. There may be multiple target areas, but usually only one is addressed in each session. The first step in CBT is to address core beliefs about… Read More Therapy Tuesday: CBT – Core Beliefs
I’ve had a frustrating realization, and I decided to share it with everyone here. My reason for it isn’t to garner sympathy, but to show how I use the skills I write about. This post may be long, and I’ll put a TRIGGER WARNING here that I’m going to be discussing the ways depression and… Read More Freeform Friday: My battle with depression
A couple of years ago, I attended a virtual seminar through my employer. The speaker was Judi Holler, a woman who has gone from fleeing an improv class, to teaching others how to overcome their fears, resistance to change, and be capable of grasping opportunities in their lives. The horrible fact about human nature is,… Read More Motivational Monday: Conquer Yourself
I’m sharing this in part because I feel I owe everyone an explanation for dropping off the face of the earth. Also, it’s possible that somewhere in here, I’ll have information that will help someone who is just beginning their struggle with post-covid symptoms. This will be a long post as there is much to… Read More Freeform Friday: An abbreviated version of the past year of my life.
This skill is one of my favorites. Some pop-psychology has taken it to unhealthy extremes, but when used appropriately, it’s excellent for defusing anxiety. I’ll open this post with a few caveats. If you’re not in a safe place, this is not the skill you need. You have to protect yourself, which means getting out… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Be Where You Are