Honestly, I feel a bit like a fake lately. Here I am sharing tips and skills, and I’m barely holding it together. At least, from my view I’m barely holding it together. A friend recently said, “You’re holding yourself to some crazy standards thinking that you aren’t enough.” Well, perhaps. I hold myself to the… Read More Freeform Friday: Taking my own advice
So often when something troubles us, we shove it aside and keep pushing forward. A broken heart, dissatisfaction with a job, stress from any source, anger, fear, all those emotions just get pushed into a corner together. We tell ourselves we’ll deal with it later and focus on things we feel have to be done.… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Recognize what hurts
Sometimes, when I look around at my life and my current state of mind I get frustrated, but also encouraged. That sense of encouragement is really important right now, as I fight the depression. It’s all about knowing that while I feel like a ship left behind on a dried up lake… I know that… Read More Freeform Friday: Looking at reality
I got a couple messages last week asking if I was okay after the post about my current mental state. Short version: Yes. I’m okay. Long version: I’m not okay, but I will be. I’m too stubborn to just give up. It’s helpful at times like this when what I’d really like is to crawl… Read More Freeform Friday: Yep, still here.
I’m going to start today with a visual example to explain why we should reframe things sometimes. The following image is one I took, and I’m going to frame it in two different ways. In this first image, there’s not a lot to see. Some scruffy grass, maybe a mildly interesting pattern, but overall, not… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Reframe
I’ve had a frustrating realization, and I decided to share it with everyone here. My reason for it isn’t to garner sympathy, but to show how I use the skills I write about. This post may be long, and I’ll put a TRIGGER WARNING here that I’m going to be discussing the ways depression and… Read More Freeform Friday: My battle with depression
While I was at work yesterday I had an experience that left me a bit shaken up. I helped someone who was facing an anxiety attack, and their gratitude was so overflowing it blew me away. Admittedly, when a person is in that moment of need and someone provides the exact aid to help them,… Read More Freeform Friday: Can we practice kindness?
This skill is one of my favorites. Some pop-psychology has taken it to unhealthy extremes, but when used appropriately, it’s excellent for defusing anxiety. I’ll open this post with a few caveats. If you’re not in a safe place, this is not the skill you need. You have to protect yourself, which means getting out… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Be Where You Are