Welp, we’re going to take a dip into my life again because, it seems especially relevant to the stories I’ve heard about people who “try counseling.” I think most people have heard someone say, “I tried counseling but it really didn’t help any.” I don’t doubt these people have tried. Nor do I assume they… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Find the RIGHT therapist
I’ve posted before about recognizing your limits, saying no, and taking time for yourself. But those things can be extra difficult if you don’t know how to set and hold your boundaries. Not that boundaries are easy to master, or even hold to 100% of the time. They’re effective and necessary, though.
So often when something troubles us, we shove it aside and keep pushing forward. A broken heart, dissatisfaction with a job, stress from any source, anger, fear, all those emotions just get pushed into a corner together. We tell ourselves we’ll deal with it later and focus on things we feel have to be done.… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Recognize what hurts
Executive dysfunction can originate from a variety of sources. Depression, anxiety, ADD/ADHD, illness, and even being overtired. It’s crippling when it hits, even if it passes in a day. For those who live with it, it can become a level of hell especially when combined with a society that calls it “laziness.” The first skill… Read More Top-Skills Thursday: Executive Dyusfunction
No matter how open-minded and understanding we want to be, there are always times when we see the world in black and white. Failure, being in need, not producing things, not working on yourself every single day… all are “bad.” Success, having more than enough of what you need, having a hustle… all are “good.”… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Add some grey
While stimulation play has been recognized to help with ADD/ADHD and even with those who are on the autism spectrum, it’s also a great help in reducing stress and anxiety in neuro-typicals (those of us without those particular problems). The reason it works for anxiety is, in the simplest terms, it gives the brain something… Read More Top Skills Thursday: “Stimming”
Have you ever avoided doing something because it scared you? I’m not talking, “That thing made me feel so nervous!” I mean, “my heart was racing, I couldn’t put words together, and my entire body was shaking!” I’m going to bet you have, because every single person on the planet has had that happen at… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Be Brave In Small Ways
I’m going to start today with a visual example to explain why we should reframe things sometimes. The following image is one I took, and I’m going to frame it in two different ways. In this first image, there’s not a lot to see. Some scruffy grass, maybe a mildly interesting pattern, but overall, not… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Reframe
It’s such an obvious thing, isn’t it? If you’re having trouble with anxiety or depression, find a therapist. Don’t ask me why, even for those of us who have successfully used therapists in the past, it’s not the first thing we think of. What I’ve learned is that it’s sometimes quite a bit harder than… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Find a therapist
While you’re feeling extra low and the usual skills aren’t giving you any relief, there’s one thing that is almost guaranteed to at least give you a break from your own headaches. Help someone, anyone, just reach out. When we step outside of ourselves and give a hand to the people around us, it breaks… Read More Top Skills Thursday: Help Someone
Kambry Ellis 